Welcome to the www.thinkingchild.com website – also available through www.thinkingpreteen.com.

Children Who Think Differently, Behave Differently

Whether you are a teacher, a parent, or other care giver, you will learn a new way to help your children make good decisions and cope with conflicts that come up with their friends, their classmates, and with you.  You will see how to help them think of their own solutions to problems, consequences to acts, and how they and others feel about things. 

On the home page, you will see some parenting tips that illustrate my problem solving approach, and books for parents, and for teachers and other caregivers.

As you surf the links on the left, you will see how research has shown that as early as age 4, children who can think the problem solving way are more empathic, and have fewer behavior problems than those who are less able to think this way.  And children who can solve problems important to them now will have skills they can take with them for the rest of their lives.

Typical Problems Include:

The 4- to 7-year-old
  • Hits his brother (classmate) to get a toy
  • Grabs toys from classmates
  • Whines incessantly to get what s/he wants
  • Throws temper tantrums
  • Won’t clean his or her room/do chores
  • Demands, “I want it NOW!” or, “I had it first!”
  • Interrupts on the phone/talking to another child, etc.
The 8- to-12-year-old
  • When friends betray others’ secrets
  • How to help when your child is excluded
  • How to help a child who is bullied
  • Sibling spats.  They’re not all bad
  • Who does the homework?
  • Homework:  When to do it


If you have ideas for a parenting tip, or questions about anything on this site, I’d love to hear from you.  If you would like a workshop presented at your school, I can set that up.  And if you try the problem solving approach, I’d love to hear how it works, or any interesting anecdote that you may have.